I saw someone ask on FB why does love hurt. There were several replies. Someone even said it's like a drug. You get addicted to the feeling and when its gone it hurts. My take on it, is that it hurts because you let it. Everything we do is an active decision. Some people say you can't help who you love. Umm yes you can! No one told you to love the idot who yells at you or who belittles you. You can help it if you realized your worth. You make a choice about who you love. You decide that you enjoy the way that person makes you feel, and open up your heart to them. And, you also make a choice about what you do with that void once the relationship has ended. You can choose to be hurt, and let it over take you. OR you can choose to see the big picture and understand that everything you want isn't always meant for you. If it was suppose to work out, you'd be together right now. I'm a true believer that everything happens for a reason. I've seen it too many times in my life. Things I thought were terrible that happened to me, later showed itself to be a blessing.

Our hearts sometimes desire what will keeps us from our path. Sometimes in order to get to that person God created for you, you have to be prepared. Preparation comes through the form of failed relationships. Look at it as growth. After a couple hard breakups I decided that from then on I would re-focus my energy. I would allow myself to be sad for only so long and pick myself up by the boot straps and move on. Often, easier said than done. But, like I said it's a choice. Don't let any one person dictate your mood and the way you feel about yourself.

I read a quote on twitter that said, "One day you'll meet someone that will make you understand why it didn't work out with anyone else." Living the life as a single woman, that's definitely words to live by.